Of perfumes and Magnetic Theory...

Going by the recent perfume ads, it's purely a modified version of the magnetic law - "Opposites attract".

They show that a woman is attracted by the strong, manly perfume used by men and vice versa. Why?

Because it's innate quality of humans. They expect the innate qualities of a gender when they see in person. A man, for example gets attracted with a faminine perfume used by a woman especially, when he sees other faminine qualities in that woman. The ad's portray this in a very subtle manner. Have you ever seen an ad which portrays a normal woman using the perfume? No. It's always the prettiest female model in the question. And same is the case with perfumes for men.

What's only highlighted in the ad is perfume's fragrance and the law of magnetism. And we forget to see the rest!

Doing Right and Doing Good!

These are the two terms which are interchanged often.

Doing Right: It's something one is responsible to do and has to commit doing it.
Doing Good: It's beyond one's responsibility, and doing it the right way.

There's a big difference between these two. Use it right next time! :)

Determination

Like confidence, you get it by getting it! :)

In my previous post : Secret of Success - Dedication, I had mentioned that dedication gets the best out of you, challenges you to challenge yourself! One thing I did not mention there is one more angle to it – Determination.

Success – excluding exceptions generally stems out of hard work, and hard work requires enough grit and determination.

What’s determination? Determination is that state of mind where you are committed to do/not doing something in some form, come whatever may.

Have you noticed that when you are at the beginning of your determination, it takes a lot to beat the negative forces? And at the end you realize that determination doesn’t come easily. What keeps your determination right is “Constancy in Purpose”.

What is that you need for determination?
- A Strong Cause
- Fear of failure
- A understanding of the positive outcome

Conclusion
Dedication and Determination – Samaparpane and Sankalp(Sanskrit terms) is what we require to excel ourselves to new territories. These two unrealized facts when made conscious to the mind awaken the sleeping spirits!

Secret of Success - Dedication

Have you observed that when you try to do a true dedication, you always try to get the best!

Examples,
1. You want to buy a gift to your brother/sister after a long time. You try to get the best within your limits!
2. You know that the person whom you love, likes something in someway. You try to acheive that "someway" to your best and surprise them!
3. You challenged a friend that you will score x% in difficult subject in the college and to your surprise you did it!

If you notice, when you want to do/give something to someone with true love, you always excel! That’s dedication!

Dedication, when pure and from deep inside the heart, does wonders to your confidence. It takes you beyond your confidence levels and challenges all the negative energy that surrounds you during that time. Why? Because, dedication is done with some expected results. Dedication is done in anticipation of something that’s very dear to you.

Sometimes, the anticipation is to be honored in front of all your school friends, and sometime it’s to please someone or to get noticed!

Whatever the anticipation, dedication challenges you. Challenges you to excel from the best you have done earlier.

You want to excel in your work? You know what to do! :)

Unpredictable Behavior!

Human behavior is highly unpredictable. My observation in this regard:

A person who is highly organized, caring and compassionate at office need not be the same in his personal life. And most often they are contrary to what they behave in the office. The vice-versa is true too. i.e., a person very well organized, caring etc in personal life, may not be the same in his professional life. Very rarely you see people who are same at both the facets of life.

This doesn’t mean that a person has to be and will be different. This behavior keeps swinging and might surprise you if you go by one notion.

But, there are certain innate characteristics which a person will carry wherever he is, whatever he is doing. What is innate to a person is completely dependent on him/her. It generally takes a long time to change the innate characteristics even if they sometime embarrass the person himself.

Have you observed this? If not, time to think about yourself! :)

Change in Values!

Looks like we are having a drastic change in our mentality and values!

Very soon, we will see everyone opposite us with suspicion.

You go to a grocery shop you will think he will cheat you.
You go to a launderer he will try to cheat you.
You go to a mall and you know that you are charged exorbitantly.
You go to a cinema hall you know that they loot you.
You think of buying a piece of land for yourself to find thousands waiting to make you a scapegoat!

There will be no service left where you can depend on someone or believe someone. Everyone tries to make the best of what he is getting and give less! Even the so called professionals in these services do it.

Where are we heading to? And, as I have been observing this trend is fast spreading from cities to the towns as well. Is this what we are going to teach our children? The next generation will never know what trust, dependability is!

We will be teaching only to suspect any person we see outside our familiar circle and to an extent within the familiar circle too!

Thinking - Positive and Negative

People have a lot of mental blocks. "I think, I can't ..." is where it starts.
Why do we have such a mental block when we want to try something new?

My belief is that "Things work out the way you Think". You think positive, the results will be positive. You think negative, and the results turn sour. Thinking positively or negatively will have to be coupled with hard work desired.

Being positive, doesn't mean that everything will work out as you expect without the necessary accessories like hardwork, thinking, attitude etc. Also, it doesn't mean that you wil be able to the impossible overnight. What I mean is that positive thinking attitude leads a man to think about positive outcomes!

But, coming to the testing teams - they are trained to look for errors(negative). Anything they see first is about something that doesn't work! This also is requried.

But how much and where all? That's where you will have to draw a line.

Education – Meaning and Usage

Education means:
- “activities that impart knowledge or skill”
- “education is a preparation for life”
- “the result of good upbringing (especially knowledge of correct social behavior)”

The word education is derived from the Latin - educare meaning “to raise”, “to bring up”, “to train”, “to rear” etc.

Today, education means adding more qualifications to ones’ CV. This is like specialist knowledge gained in a specific stream and actually not Education.

Education has kind of stopped grooming a human to prepare for the life, understand sensitivity, proper upbringing etc.

Adding higher qualifications to his/her CV, the more s/he values mental thinking, strategic thinking etc. And such thinking does not have place for - emotional thinking and sensitivity to others’ feelings, warmth etc challenging the essence of human life. We are educating to become more like machines in our thinking.

My observation is that – A person, who promotes such thinking, does have emotional thinking, sensitivity, warmth but that is only at his convenience.

This convenience is a multi-tiered one. Generally it surrounds first – himself/herself, then his immediate family and then a few close friends. Occasionally, warmth is shown for a stranger only when it is known that it’s going to benefit him/her in someway.

Where are we heading to? A land filled with “sel fishes”!

The Uneducated Educated

Recently, I have been seeing many incidents where the so called professionals have been behaving worse than the uneducated. A few samples go below:

1. Our company arranges shuttle facilities to reach its different offices in the town at designated times. People never form a queue. Men always come last minute and will be the first to get into the bus. Women employees are left helpless because they are over-powered physically. Why can't people form queue?

2. Employees had been waiting to submit details to the Tax Consultant. As usual, Tax Consultant came half an hour late. The moment they were in, people pounced on them to be the first to submit their details. Reminded of the beasts fighting for their food in the forest. Why can't we form a queue? The answer came in a little while. Arguments gave way to some sort of queue.

People who stood in the queue awaited their turn while some employees (mostly women) tried testing the patience. Couple of them got their work done and escaped. When people in the queue objected, we got answers from the queue-breakers' to have patience! People who lack the discipline preach patience to others! I was ashamed to see the so called professionals! Fish market it was! No exaggeration!

Why can't we show some decent discipline? This is what we teach our kids - discipline.

3. The bus driver was playing initially was playing english songs and then switched to local language songs. People who boast of self-respect, professionalism, pounced on the driver for performing an act of cruelty! How could they bare it?

The driver said "We will have 50-50. I have already played english songs for a while. Wait for 10 minutes, I will switch it back."

How would people lose their lessons of respect to others? Poor fellow was asked to switch back immediately. Lessons of respect-to-fellow men! We are decent you see!

The moment I think of the egoistic, un-disciplined, "refusing to understand other's view" professionals I feel the uneducated are far better!

Have you seen this beautiful face of professionals? Why don't you share it with me!