Realising One's Importance

You would have heard many a times, especially, when a person has gone, people around start praising the out-going person's good deeds. It could also happen that the person who's praising most would been the one passing critical comemnts all the time! Remember, the old bollywood movies where the step mother's crying over missing son/daugther?

Most of us have the tendency to realise one's potential only in that person's absence - what we call "Missing you" syndrome! :)

I am not talking of the "missing you" syndrome enjoyed by the couples.

I am mentioning about the one's that are more serious. Some examples are:

1. When a manager/company ignores your potential, you tend to think that, if you leave the company, the company/manager will realise your importance.

2. In a forced relation, whatever good you do, the opposite person fails to recognize it. At times you feel, that probably if you leave this relation, your importance will be recognized.

Given any situation, a company or an individual, one will realise the potential if he intends to. He will give his best try or shot, to get the right results. And a person/manager who has his eyes closed to the potential, will not learn even in your absence.

"Out of sight, out of mind". They will just forget you.

Next time, you face a situation like this, try your best, and all the possibilities to prove what's right. After one stage, it's better You realise that the other person is not going to understand your worth and look for other avenues.

Facts about Relationship

Any relation has the following four basic points:
1. Love
2. Understanding
3. Responsibility
4. Respect

The levels of the basic points in each relation vary.
For example, you might be close with a friend, but you might think that he/she is not responsibile. You might not show the same level of love to a stranger when compared to your family members.

The levels of these four pillars in any relation are bound to change with individuals. But when we call someone close, like family members, the height of these pillars should be tall for a long lasting relation. If any of the pillar is uneven, then the relation constructed on these four pillars is going to dilly-dally, often.

Every pillar, has it's own importance. And the right amount of it is required in each relation. Again, too much of love with no responsibility will not help in sustaining the relation, for example.

Next time, you have a crack in the relation, which you think is important, check which pillar is going weak and correct it.